The Danger of a Suspicious Partner

I saw a man interrogating his wife’s friends like a CIA, sniffing through her chats, calls and messages like an android virus, and practically tracking her like a monitoring spirit. I told myself "trust is dead in this relationship." When trust is lost in a relationship, all is lost and what remains is suspicion.

I wrote this article to help people with suspicion syndromes, or living with suspicious partners. If you have a suspicious partner who does not trust you and keeps investigating your life, you need to read this. Suspicion is like a time bomb. It may look innocent at the initial stage, but as it matures, it produces fruits of jealousy and distrust, until it is ripe enough to explode the relationship.

Some people are born with suspicion syndrome while some acquire it from parents, friends or experiences. Whichever way it may have been acquired, suspicion is a subtle viper capable of wrecking serious havoc in marriage relationships, if not curtailed.

When you start spoon feeding your suspicion by secretly investigating your partner, you are innocently fortifying your insecurity. A matured insecurity is strong enough to destroy a promising relationship, at any stage.

You may want to ask: What if my suspicions are right? What if my partner is unfaithful? What if she is cheating? You are asking good questions, but I am more concerned about the kind of answers you provide. I would rather ask you: What if your suspicions are right Would you like to save your marriage or relationship or would you rather take delight in proving the guilt of your partner and sentence them to condemnation?

How to handle Suspicion?
Suspicion, for a Christian, could emanate from word of knowledge. Word of knowledge is not bad, but what you do with this information can decide the outcome of your relationship.

What did Jesus do when he learnt that Peter was going to deny him and Judas would betray him?

1. Confront your Partner
Jesus did not set up a secret team to investigate Peter and Judas; rather, he confronted both of them. The day you started investigating your partner, you embarked on a quest to convict him/her of guilt and condemnation.

Jesus confronted both Judas and Peter, and so should you. Like Peter, your partner may deny it or simply ignore you like Judas Iscariot. This is definitely not an excuse to commence investigation.

Confronting your partner is the best thing you can do for him/her to save your relationship. It may be a difficult conversation that would need your prayer before action. There is no price to much to save your home.

2. Pray for you Partner
We pray for the people we love. Suspecting your spouse and desisting from praying for him/her is ignorantly partnering with the devil to destroy your home.

The story of Judas and Peter shows us what prayer is capable of doing to people. Although we don’t know if Jesus prayed for Judas, but He told Peter “I have prayed for thee that thy faith fail not”

Peter could have been destroyed by guilt and self condemnation, like Judas, save for the prayer of Jesus. The battle of your home can be won by prayer. Even if your suspicions are right, your prayers can trigger a positive turnaround in your partner and relationship.

3. Give your Partner Advanced Forgiveness
Giving your spouse advanced forgiveness is a way of securing your relationship from past, present and future offenses. This however, is not a license for waywardness but an insurance and assurance of your unconditional love.

I hope this article blessed you. Feel free to drop your comments below, testimonies and questions.

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