How to break the RESISTANCE of your Wife by the force of Love

Disclaimer: The strategy you are about to learn is not for manipulating women, but for building healthy families.

We have all heard about Woman Power, but very little has been said about Man Power. The only power some men demonstrate over their wives is muscular/violent power, and this power unlocks the door of fear, bitterness and resentment in their family. No wonder, children from such families grow up with zero relationship with their “Boss-man”.

Basically, there are two ways you can change a woman; by forcing her to do what you want (which may or may not succeed), or by loving her until she changes (love never fails). I know it sounds ridiculous, just keep reading with an open heart to embrace this ancient divine wisdom.

Some women may be quite difficult to live with, trust me on that (lol), and some can launch a man into blessings or hardship, depending on your level of understanding. Jesus had a very good understanding of women, and he raised fervent believers out of possessed women like Mary Magdalene. I am sure your wife/partner is not as possessed as her. The Samaritan woman was trying to be difficult with Jesus, but Jesus gently disarmed her, broke her resistance and she became a voluntary missionary for Jesus the same day.

What you call resistance in your wife, God calls it ignorance on your part. By configuration, a woman is designed to seek emotional connection. When she gets emotionally connected, her defenses melt naturally. The first lady, Madam Eve, was a good wife and she never intended to destroy her home, but the serpent was smart. The serpent connected with her emotions, broke her resistance and deceived her. Today too, like Adam, many husbands are still leaving emotional vacuums in their wives and allowing the serpent to fill in the gap. The second Adam, Jesus, corrected the error of Adam by loving his bride (the church), even to the cross and set a standard for marriage.

Every husband need to study the life of Jesus to understand how to love an undeserving wife. It is easy to love your wife when she loves you back, but what happens when she denies you three times (like Peter did); when she doesn’t trust your word (like Thomas did); when she is inconsiderate about your feelings (like the disciples in the garden of Gethsemane).

Jesus never raised his hand on his wife, he never forced them to fast nor pray. Despite the imperfection and weaknesses of his wife, he kept giving them consistent doses of love. The same Peter that denied Jesus became a great Apostle and joyfully died on an X-shaped cross for his master; and Mr. Doubting Thomas became a mighty missionary who took the gospel to Indian and its sub-continent.

Can you see how love can change a stubborn wife into a loving and willing wife? The weakness, stubbornness and unwillingness of your wife can be broken by the formidable force of love - if you choose to follow and walk in the footsteps of Jesus. The Power of men over women in marriage is the force of love. But note, the love I am talking about is not a general love; brotherly love may fail, sexual love may fail, but Agape love never fails (1 Corinthians 13:8)

Give your wife an Overdose of Agape Love

Your wife may resist violence, she may resist your threats; but she can never resist Agape Love. Yes, she may not change instantly, but with patience and steady dose of Agape Love, she will become a complete woman in virtuosity and honor. 

To successfully give your wife an overdose of Agape Love, you need to do these three things:

1. Receive Agape Love from the Father: You cannot give what you don’t have and unless you are born again, the love of God cannot dwell in you. For the saved husbands, congratulations. The love of God has been shed abroad in your heart by the Holy Spirit, so proceed to point two:

2. Find the Love Language(s) of your Wife: I am surprised when I see husbands that don’t know the love language(s) of their wives. If you can get a degree from school, then understanding your wife’s love language should not be a big deal; it is easier than calculus (smiles).

3. Fill her Love Tank: It is said that “he that does not know how to read is not better than he that cannot read.” Faith without works is dead. Put your knowledge to action by intentionally creating time to fill the love tank of your wife. Filling her love tank means developing emotional connection with her. If you fail to do so, the serpent may fill in the space, and it will eventually affect you. It can displace you from Eden (Your Eden is your place of assignment; ministry, career, business, etc).

On a personal note, I have been enjoying the dividends of applying this method in my relationship, and I am still an ardent follower of Jesus. My fiancée had some unpleasing walls, but after giving her doses of Agape, I have been enjoying blank cheques from her; she would tell me to ask her for anything I want her to do (I hope she does not build more walls when she reads this, lol).

Unfortunately, my requests are few because I now understand it is more blessed to give than to receive, and Agape Love seeks to please and not to be pleased.

I hope this article blessed you. Feel free to drop your comments below, testimonies and questions.

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