Rules of Engagement- Introduction

In Dr Myles Munroe’s words, love does not make marriage work; don’t get married because you love someone. That may sound strange because we have always heard the opposite: “Go for Love, Marry for love”, and so on.

If you take a quick statistics of the couples filing for divorce, you will realize that Dr Myles is right. Many of them started out “madly in love.” So what could have happened along the way? Simple, they encountered “storms of marriage” that were stronger than their love.”

Love is not all you need in your marriage. The bible never said that “by love is a house built”, neither does it say “love is the principal thing.” While Love is the strongest force on earth, Love requires wisdom for sustainance. In this series, we will be considering principles and rules that guarantee the marriage of your dreams.

My dear, God wants you to have a sweet marriage, a romantic, an exciting and a fulfilling marriage. But, you have to play by his rules. What is a rule? A rule is a principle that governs the conduct/activities of a community or institution. And as we all know, Marriage is an institution. It is the oldest institution known to man, and it is built on laws and principles. We have compiled and summed up the rules of engagement into seven rules. If you apply yourself and your marriage wholly unto them, you are in for a phenomenal transformation.

Ask your spouse what his/her definition of love is; this is because self-concepts govern behavior. Every family should have a clear definition of love.

There are basically three kinds of love; phileo, eros and Agape. We will discuss more on this later. Our definition of True love is established from Agape, God’s kind of Love. 

Simply put, True love is the decision to commit to the needs of another person for life, without expectations. 

Hence, the next time you tell your partner: "I LOVE YOU", what you are actually saying is that I will meet your needs without expectations.

Watchout for the next post...