Rules of Engagement- 2 (Value and Priority)

 Who is the most important person in your life??? 

Nowadays, it is common to see how some women idolize their pastors/bosses, while they utterly dishonor and disrespect their husbands.

I love what a dear woman of God said: “I will never give any man any honor that I have not given to my husband.”

If your spouse has to compete with others (whosoever) for your attention and affection, then your spouse is not the most important person in your life. 

For some married men, it is their boss or business partner. Some husbands consider the opinions of their parents as final authority; they run to Mama for go ahead even after concluding their wives.That is not reverence; it is an immaturity that could expose the family to danger.

Honor is a mutual obligation of both husband and wife in marriage; and it is a commandment of God. Hence, when you dishonor your spouse, you dishonor God’s Word. Show me a man that does not value his wife, and I will show you a man that cannot do exploits for God. If you cannot honor your spouse, you cannot honor God.

How can you Value your Spouse?

First, let’s examine the meaning of the word “value”. It means to hold something in high esteem, or reverence. Here are some unique ways of honoring your spouse:

•        Value his/her opinions. How frequently do you meet your spouse for her opinion on an issue? Some husbands, the last person they will meet for advice is their wives; and some wives care less about the opinion of their husbands.

•          Protect his/her reputation.

•          Give him/her constant admiration and appreciation.

Here are some of the importances of valuing your spouse:

1. It helps to build your partner’s self esteem and confidence in your love. 
2.  It encourages openness in communication. As someone said, people don’t care how much you know until they know how much you care.
3. It builds your partner’s reputation.  

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