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How to identify a Help meet, Part 2



Marriage is a good thing, but if the vision of the man is not clear, there is danger. Proverbs 18:22 says “whoso finds a wife finds a good thing, and obtains favour of the LORD.” 



QUALITIES OF HELPMEETS

1.       Pleasure and Procreation
No matter how sterile a man is, he cannot fertilize himself. He needs a wombed-man to carry his baby. Unfortunately, many people see women as mere sex-objects, exclusively for pleasure and procreation only. Women are capable of conceiving other forms of babies when given a clear vision.

2.       Complementary
A woman brings balance into a man’s life. Some men used to be very rough and untidy before marriage. Some even kept dreadlocks under their armpits (smiles). Thank God for creating helpmeets that complement.

Every unmarried man has a missing rib, and God provided his missing rib in the form of a woman, a helpmeet, that will complement him. A woman was not created to compete with her husband, but to complete him. 1 Corinthians 11:9 tells us that man was not created for the woman; but the woman for the man. 

3.       A Multiplier
Whatever you give a woman, she conceives, multiplies it and gives it back to you. Wise men have leverage on this potential in women. For instance, Jesus readily missed his lunch to invest time to preach to a single woman, a Samaritan woman. When she got the message, she ran back to her town and single-handedly publicized Christ throughout the community. Understanding womanhood deals extensively on this subject.

As I said earlier, the woman is a wombed-man, and she is endowed with the ability to fertilize the man’s sperm, vision, ideas, words etc to give produce a harvest.
A helpmeet is a producer; she produces a home out of a house. You can build a house without a woman, but you need a woman to build a home.

4.       A Supporter
She is the number one fan of her husband. She supports him with her words, and infuses greatness into him. She inspires her husband to accomplish his dreams.
When a man shares his vision with you, or his plans and purpose, he is entrusting his life to you. He needs a help meet that encourage and cheer him till he accomplishes those things.

As a help meet, if your husband cannot seek advises from you, and be sure to get inspiration from you, you are not performing your roles well. Proverbs 18:22 says a wife should in every way be a good thing to her husband. Your husband should be able to look back and thank God he met you.

5.       A builder
There are many married women that are not help meet. For instance, women like the proverbial foolish woman that destroys her home with her words is not a help meet. A woman that is constantly nagging and makes the home unbearable is not a helpmeet. If your actions are not aimed at building your home then you are not a help meet.

A helpmeet is a nurturer; she cares for and grooms whatever is in her care. She caters for her family (husband and children).

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