How to identify a Help meet, Part 1

There are millions of great ladies out there. Thousands with admirable attributes that will make many men bustle for the altar. But wait, how do you really separate your help meet from the crowd?

To identify your helpmeet means to recognize the potentials inherent in a woman that makes her suitable. These include qualities, potentials and other attributes. This information is important for young men single, dating or married, as well as women who wish to improve on self-awareness of their potentials.

You can marry the right woman but underestimate her potentials because of ignorance or pride. Marriage can be heaven on earth or hell on earth. It all depends on the quality of knowledge at your disposal. According to Paul, marriage is good but he prefers to stay single. In other words if a man can chase 1000 people as a Single Man, marriage can increase his capacity to 10,000 or crush him to a dozen, or even nothing.

As a family-minded man, no matter how strong or smart you are, if you will leave a trans-generational legacy, you need a helper. After creation, God looked at everything and saw that it was good…. But, in Genesis 2:18, he saw something that was not good. The only part of God’s creation declared to be “not good” was Adams aloneness. Adam was strong, smart and hardworking like his father, God, but he needed a helper. A helper to do what?

Hold on a second. Did you notice that Adam did not complain nor ask God for a wife. Common, the guy does not even know he needed a wife. God knows all our needs, long before the needs arise to our recognition. It preempted Adam by saying; it is not good for a man to be alone. 

So, what does it mean to help, or to be a helper?

The definition is simple, but many people still simply misunderstand it. That is surprising right?

To help means to make something easier for someone, or to improve a situation. Thus, a helper is someone who supports you, strengthens you, complements you, makes an assignment easier, and brings improvement to your life.

A helpmeet is therefore a woman, who is designed by God to make her husband complete for his assignment by supporting and complementing him. She was created to be a help suitable for her husband.

Being a help meet is much more than doing house chores, catering for the children...those things are good and necessary but there’s more to it.

It is all about reducing (not increasing) the burden of your husband, and this differs for different husbands. For instance: A house maid is definitely not a helpmeet to the husband/man of the house even though she does the house chores.

Different men have different needs, and God prepares special rib for each one. It is ignorance to covet another man’s wife, because getting another man’s rib is not a help meet but war-meet.

The Holy Spirit is also called a helper, comforter. He does exactly what his name describes; he strengthens, supports and makes us complete for our purpose…

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