Often times we don’t notice these little things
Some of these are:
1. Appreciation
2. Apologies
3. Encouragement
4. Sweet words
1. Appreciation
Appreciation is one of the keys to building a healthy relationship. The good thing is that it does not take much to appreciate your partner
Appreciation can help bring out the greatness and potential of a relationship
And re-ignite your love for each other
Many times all it takes is just a word
Appreciating your partner on a daily basses is a great way to protect your relationship
This will remind your partner that you still notice him or her.
You have to be sincere when you appreciate your partner
Tell him/her the reason why you appreciate them that will make the appreciation more real
Be creative in appreciating your partner, don’t just say thank you all the time
Appreciate them in private and in public
Look out for positive things to appreciate even in negative circumstances
Notice what your partner does well for you, catch them doing things right
2. Apologies
Sorry (said sincerely) is a word that can melt anyone’s heart.
Proverb 16:24 says Pleasant words are as an honeycomb, sweet to the soul, and health to the bones.
“I am Sorry” are the three most powerful that I used to restore relationships. Apologies shows the motive and maturity of an individual. It shows to what extend an individual is seeking to make his/her relationship work
Apologies must not necessarily come from the one who is at fault.
Apologizing when you are not at fault show that you value your relationship more than your ego especially for a man
The goal of apology is just to make right the wrongs done. The aim of apologies is to let peace reign and to make you relationship work.
Now an apology shouldn’t be an epistle, it should be short and straight to the point. Don't explain.
Long apologies might require you to start saying history about yourself, your partner, your relationship, and you might in the process cause more harm than good
So it is better to make it short by stating the offence, taking responsibility for the offence and sincerely saying ‘I am sorry’
Matthew 5: 23-24 says Therefore if thou bring thy gift to the altar, and there remember that thy brother hath ought against thee;
Leave there thy gift before the altar, and go thy way; first be reconciled to thy brother, and then come and offer thy gift.
This scripture explains that before we can render service to God we have make peace with all men (your partner inclusive) which shows how important apologies are.
We can also see that these scripture does not specify who to say sorry, it does not tell us that only the offender should apologize .i.e. who is at fault is not the issue but the real issue is making peace.
3. Encouragement
Encouraging love helps your partner grow without being a critic
Through encouragement you can be bring out change, growth and the fulfillment of potentials In your partner
Encouragement means to inspire, to continue on chosen course ant to impart courage or confidence
Encouragement is beyond praises
Praise is limited, it emphasizes competition, it is often given for being the best
Encouragement is far better
Encouragement is recognizing your partner as having worth and dignity even though he is imperfect. It also mean to expect the best out of your partner
Your partner is always at his/her best when he/she feels encouraged
Date: September 11, 2016
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