I am a firm believer in the posibility of the changing the world by prioritizing family development and making wise investments towards family growth.
Let me show you why families are important. The cab driver that drives you, and;
+ Your Tailor,
+ Your lecturer,
+ The Senator,
+ The housemaid,
And the arrays of people that daily play roles in your life, all come from one family or the other.
Now let's elucidate on it more:
+The suicide bomber that kills people did not fall from heaven.⛷ He was born like you and I with full body and soul 👶
But unfortunately, they usually come from families where no one has any plan for anyone 🚫😞. The bomber grew up like every other child, but one bad decision led to another...
From Poverty and Frustration 🕸
The society nicknamed Almajiri 🤕
A beggar who is useless and good for nothing.
He tries to seek jobs but the no one will allow him close to them. Out of frustration he gave up and gave in to the any job that comes around.
To struggling for survival at any means and he got a job
A job that offered to end his sad life in exchange for 7 virgins.
But his poor decision is no longer a private matter. It determines the life of other people who are 'unconnected' to him.
So you see it is Wisdom to acquire proper knowledge about family before raising a family. This is not just about you alone, but your decision will also affect other people as well....
The same way bad decisions destroy others, one good decision can also bless generations to come
Let me kindly ask you a question...
If God created man to be a King on earth, so his wife would be what? Mummy Or Maale? Lol 😂
Definitely not so. She is the Queen
Yes you can go on ahead and stand in front of the mirror and confess that
I Know who I am !!!
I AM A KING,
I AM A KING...
I AM A KING...
Or I AM A QUEEN...
oh yeah?
That is fine but that is not all there is to it.
A slogan says "Kings are not born, they are made"
You might be a King, but the kingship training preceeds the reigning process. God cannot make you something he has not trained you for.
So when He shows you his good plans for an expected end (Vision).
He will ensure you undergo trainings and character development fitted for the palace until the appointed time when he can say to you...
THIS IS MY BELOVED SON, IN WHOM I AM WELL PLEASED... 😇, listen to him
At that time, you have developed the character of a king or of the Queen and you are ready to wear the crown 👑
My last question before I highlight the important things you should FIX in your life on your way to the throne. 💃🏃
What happens when you give a man who is not a king the crown ?
Proverbs 30:21
Under three things the earth trembles; under four it cannot bear up: a slave when he becomes king, and a fool when he is filled with food;
Note: The earth trembles !!!
A slave in this context is a 'lucky king' who has the character of a slave
Remember the Yoruba Proverb, "it takes a mother to give birth to a child, but the entire village trains him".
Based on the four things mentioned in Proverbs 30:24,
I present to you
4 THINGS TO FIX BEFORE FOR A BEAUTIFUL MARRIAGE
1⃣ Time Management
The ants.
The ants are a people not strong, yet they provide their food in the summer;
*All you will ever become in life is the value you traded your time to get.
*My question is that
what are the things important to you right now, and how much time are you giving those things?
Ask yourself every time
WHAT ARE MY PRIORITIES ?
AND WHAT TIME OF ALL MY LIFE AM I ALLOCATING TO EACH?
*In marriage, you will need to intelligently divide your time for your partner, children, God, Work...
If you don't get it now don't think you will get it when you are married.
Many of our parents never really "prepared" for marriage, little wonder they were never there for there are children. Some of us like our parents, but we don't want our relationships to be like theirs.
We all want heaven on earth, but the truth is that God created his heaven and earth, you have to create your own heaven on earth.
If you are married, sit down and schedule time for your family; both important and non important activities such as
Time for fun to create bonding
Time for prayers to maximize influence
Time for study to create impact
Time for work to increase income
Tine for relaxation to promote good health.
The successful people are the people that are disciplined enough to get what they want/need in TIME.
Before we go over to the next point, don't forget that things will always call for your time, I learnt from Mary K Ash how to rightly prioritize my life by putting God first, Family next and Work.
What picture do you want your children to have? A loving father or Mother?
Start scheduling time for them right now
Surprised?
You do that even as a single by taking wisdom on how to raise intelligent, godly and loving children
Sister, What picture do you want the man to have,
Schedule it into your time now. Same thing for brothers
Remember, if there's no time for it now, life will not dash you extra time.
2. CONSISTENCY
The Rock badgers
"the rock badgers are a people not mighty, yet they make their homes in the cliffs;"
The secret of consistency is that anything that keep doing over and over will be mastered by you and you will be known for it.
Don't be a drifter
Who changes Routines and Dreams every now and then.
I once asked a lady that this time tomorrow, what would you likely be doing?
you know her answers right? She said, when tomorrow comes, she will decide...
YOU NEED TO HAVE A DAILY ROUTINE TO YOUR WORK AND DREAMS ELSE YOU WILL KEEP DREAMING UNTIL YOU FOUND OUT THAT old age don come o
Now over to the third capsule
3. Authority
Locusts 🐜
"the locusts have no king, yet all of them march in rank;"
When authority is recognized, there is order, progress and success.
Respect and honor authorities over your life and in your journey of life.
The Gateman is an authority over something, don't despise him
The cell leader is an authority over you, honor him.
What is your response to authorities over your life.
The Authority of Mentors, God's Word, Friends and how do you RANK them.
*never to marry a man/woman without an inheritance.
Inheritance comes from the authorities God placed in your life.
Proverbs 19:14 says "House and riches are the inheritance of fathers: and a prudent wife is from the Lord"
*inheritance removes struggle and guzzle from your story
*If you see a family that struggles financially or in ministry or business, you have seen a family without INHERITANCE or authority figures
Some brothers can just wake up in the morning and do anything they like, they think it is freedom
Noooo, it means unaccountability!
You need to be accountable to an authority figure over your life. Now the last but not the least
4. Humility
Lizard 🐊
"the lizard you can take in your hands, yet it is in the king's palace"
You can get very far in life, even farther than your eyes can see or your mind can think with your FAMILY of you leave an humble life.
*Dont let progress inflate your pride. Stay humble!
Show me a mighty man/woman of God after God's heart and I will show you a man/woman with a tender and humble heart ♥ 😉
Do you respond differently to:
+ The rich and the poor
+ The popular and the no-man
+ The strong and the weak
The secret of Jesus's Success is what?
Humility, 💘
God trusted him with authority because he cannot rob him of his glory and was humble enough not to take advantage of the power entrusted to him.
Do you know why people find it difficult to say Sooooooory? It is pride.
If you can't say sorry when they are wrong, it will be harder to say sorry when you are right and your partner is wrong
It takes an humble heart to allow the other partner to have his/her way
*the way you treat lesser class indicates your level of humility and how much grace you will enjoy.
Remember, God gives Grace to the Humble.
Grace gives Speed. The Humble will eventually overtake the man and woman that that got ahead looking down on others. When God promotes a proud man, God lost control of him because his heart becomes lifted up against God.
That is why God only gives grace to who? The Humble.
So If you are in a relationship with a proud man/woman
My dear.....
You need a special Grace o
Because if she is not humble to people, You will soon be a victim of the harvest of his pride.
Lack of humility or pride always causes disgrace
That is one big difference between king Saul and my friend King David
If you notice seeds of pride early, pray for the partner ooo
Because, God will not raise you above your lid of pride
Else you will get out of control
Summarily friends of Love Umbrella.
Dear Ladies
Don't just aim at getting the husband and king of your dream...
Prepare yourself to be a QUEEN irresistible to the KING
Dear Gentlemen
Don't just aim at getting your babe and beautiful Queen
Build yourself to become what every Queen will wish for in a Man.
Mmmmh!
You can pray and tongue for months..
But you will only attract who you are good for,
So my advise is that you should work on you so that he/she will see his/her dream come true in you.
Thanks for your time and
I rest my case
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